I had the misfortune and unpleasant experience of heading once again down the rabbit hole that is twitter, and worse, browsing postings and tweets from escorts on twitter.
Please don’t misunderstand, for the most part I see sexworkers advertising themselves, posting some pretty hot content, and interacting… but there is another side of it all… an seemingly angry and hateful side.
A site contributor of afterdarkads and one of our greatest proponent’s, RisaJ pointed me to a discussion regarding Tryst.link.
Many escorts and advertisers were reporting horrid results, and were very frustrated (understandable), some were happy with the platform. There was some of the typical client bashing/hate, but what shocked me was seeing a prominent and I thought respected Provider from NY bash our site calling the platform “garbage” and refusing to “recommend babes lower their standards to advertising on that site”, after our Social Media director used our twitter account ( https://twitter.com/Afterdarkads) to suggest us as an alternative for anyone unhappy with tryst.
Thankfully the tweet has since been removed, and thank you for that, but it is something we see all to often. This apparent attitude from the escort that charges $800+ an hour and accepts Saks gift cards or 1st class airfare as deposits, that any sexworker charging $150 and advertising on a backpage replacement site like afterdarkads.com is “garbage”, that there is something “wrong” with being a sexworker that advertises on sites like afterdarkads, that the escorts on sites like backpage are beneath them. That it is ok to bash and insult anyone without a $2500 website and a professional photographer.
I would love to ask who exactly they were referring to when this person called afterdarkads “garbage”? Was it the mother of 3 in Seattle that advertises her phone sex line? Or the escort in Denver who knows that “denver backpage” is the best google result for SW’rs in her city, therefore brings the most traffic to her $1 ad that gets her 2 or 3 bookings the one day she posts it per week… allowing her to pay ALL of her bills and spend the rest of the week finishing her masters. Is it the TS provider in Chicago that advertises her outreach program? I want to know who is the garbage that she referred to.
Becasue afterdark ads IS our advertisers. We the owners are sexworkers. I personally escorted for over 13 years. My partner 10. The writers for our SEO are all current sexworkers. Once again, afterdarkads IS our advertisers, so who is garbage?
Garbage is the “fellow” sexworker that puts down other providers. Garbage is the woman putting other women down rather than building them up.
Maybe she felt the Gay, Lesbian and Transexual providers we give free advertising to are the garbage. I don’t know. I was NOT insulted as the site owner, I got over that a long time ago. The hate mail from so called Christians alone gave me tough skin. I could care less in that regard. I am not insulted as the business owner or creator, I am insulted as a SW’r and woman and an escort.
We have given tens of thousands of dollars in free advertising away, we give free advertising help, website work, and much more all to help build our advertisers businesses. we link our advertisers personal websites in ways to help their SEO, we EXPLAIN SEO to them, and provide free help in that regard. We are doing our best to make our money from selling ads to outside sites and cam sites, as opposed to charging our SW”rs to post. We pay for development, employees, marketing, SEO, security, legal fees, and much more, all at a loss, to help others in this industry. We do this because we know our advertisers are NOT garbage. We ARE our advertisers.
Want to know what I feel is garbage? Her understanding of advertising. Her lack of knowledge regarding branding, SEO, and more, and her attitude towards SW’s that use sites like afterdarkads.
I looked at her rates. BARE min you can see her for is $800.
Lets do some math.
Tryst is basically an avg of $70/month for most people. $840 a year. Lets say that her ad gets just ONE booking per year, she breaks even. 2 and she is making a 100% return on her money, thats IF she only books a 1 hour date.
I would say that if she is at ALL confident in her appearance, booking procedures, closing procedures, screening and follow through, this is a solid investment.
That same advertisement on afterdarkads would cost her aprox $10 a month, $120 a year… if it resulted in just ONE booking, she would see a profit of $680. 2 bookings would net her $1480. That is about the same profit margin as buying amazon stock in the late 90’s.
BUT… I know, there are things to consider, she is above posting on our garbage site with the other garbage.
Also, the guys that spend $800+ an hour are not searching afterdarkads, they are only on sites like Tryst right?
There are 2 basic types of man looking to book an escort, the hobbyist, and the first timer. The hobbyist sees escorts often, knows what sites to look on for what he seeks, and “knows the drill”. The first timer is the husband on vacation, the guy that saw “a hooker once when he was overseas in the military”, the older man unfamiliar with the internet and what it offers. The reclusive wealthy bookish engineer that does this once a year.
They take to google and search “escorts denver” or “escorts atlanta” and start clicking away at those top 10 results. They search for things like “adult classifieds” and are the types that actually sign up for ashley madison thinking they are really gonna find a bored milf that wants to fuck for free.
They are often scared, unsure of what is real… they text the first ad they see using pics of Kate Upton claiming to be “need hard dick for fuck now” hoping that a girl that looks like her is really on a website offering “hot sex with my breast for you” for $100qv. They dont know what QV is anyway.
And who are they? The owner of the New England Patriots used a site like afterdarkads.com to find the AMP he went to in Florida.
PLEASE tell me there are no men using afterdarkads to find sexworkers and escorts that can afford or will pay $800/hr. PLEASE. There are just as many using us that can as can not.
So Should $800+ an hour escorts use a site like afterdarkads? Absolutly! Why? Branding. Here are 2 examples of COMMON everyday occurrences.
- The hobbyist. He knows the deal. Today he does not have time, nor need for a 2 hour Proper Introduction that costs $1200, hes looking to get a quick blowjob before a meeting. He does not want to go through screening, he does not have the time to wait for a email response. He wants to call, get an address… show up to an incall, call again for a room number, pay $200, get taken care of without buying “agent provocateur” and a red Burgundy wine as gifts before stopping at multiple atm’s to get more cash than his daily limit. He makes more in a month than the escort charging $800/hr makes in a year, and could afford anything he wants… and today he wants a easy QV. He uses a site like afterdarkads KNOWING that a large percentage of the advertisers fit perfectly into what he wants. Its too bad he did not see the ad our $800+ an hour escort never posted because she is so much better than reducing her standards to advertising on a site like afterdarkads. Its too bad because later this month he is heading to Aspen skiing and wanted the company of a beautiful woman. To bad because had he seen her ad, he may of bookmarked her website for later. To bad because later when he DID go to tryst or slixa looking for his ski bunny, and saw her ad there as well… he would be MORE likely to look again, and possibly book. He has been “branded”
- The First timer, he googles away with random searches, “escorts near me” and “I want to get a blowjob now”. He stumbles on Tryst, browses every profile. is scared off by “screening”. He does not have a reference. He does not want to send his ID and phone to a stranger, he is sure half are fake ads, the other half all cops. He does not want to be on “the John List” or 6pm news. He abandons his search 3 times. Goes back. EVERY site he is on, afterdarkads.com, tryst, slixa adultsearch, bedpage, EVERY one has an ad for our $800/hr girl. This leads him to believe she is real. She is not a scam. He finds escort reviews, he finds more sites… EVERY SITE has her on there. No way she is a cop, no way its fake… the sheer force put into advertising proves to him she is as driven about her business as she is pleasing him in bed (what he is paying for!) He spends time looking at her pics EVERY time he sees her on EVERY site. He revisits her own website over and over, driving her SEO higher. Bringing her website better traffic being linked in to so many more authoritative sites.
Was it really the ad on any one site that made him finally decide to book? Can you really say that seeing the ad on xyz site was what ACTUALLY made him book? NO It was being BRANDED and seeing her as often as possible on every site out there that led him to book. What is branding? What do you clean your ears with? NO not q-tips, they are cotton swabs… q-tips are a BRAND and you saw it and heard of them so many times you are branded and think of them when you need to clean ears. Kleenex? NO, tissues. The best part of waking up… is WHAT in your cup? There is a reason advertisers run ads for their products in as many places as they can. Do you really think you as a SW’r are different? You are marketing a service, a product. You should advertise yourself in as many places as you can reaching as many POTENTIAL customers as you can. Adult Classifieds, Escort Ads, Rubmaps, It is not the ad on any one site that will get you those CEO’s and new regular clients that drop a $500 tip every time. Its the CULMINATION of your ads on ALL of these sites.
An ad on Afterdarkads costs $1. It is not worth $1 to expand your SEO by getting a backlink? Not worth $1 to run the chance you will be seen by the hobbyist that does not KNOW where to find $800+ hour girls because hes never searched for one before? Not WORTH $1 to expand your reach and branding? As SW’rs we need to understand advertising and marketing. Branding is advertising/marketing 101.
As I said, afterdarkads IS our advertisers. They are not “garbage” . The garbage is a person that attacks others without reason or cause. Garbage is the SW”rt that thinks she is batter than any other SW’r because of how or where she advertises. Garbage is not having any clue of who you are insulting and trying to tear down.
If there is anyone out there that wants further help with ad placement, SEO, website work or anything else, PLEASE… reach out to us. We have a staff that is not only your fellow garbage SW”s, but very knowledgeable and VERY successful. We know how to get ad results. We know how to increase your sales and profits, and we are MORE than happy to help our garbage members and advertisers. We love you, we ARE you.